Avoid sarcasm in the following situations: wedding toasts, funeral eulogies, and complimenting a newborn child.

The toast scene from Wedding Crashers is instructive Rachel McAdams thinks she can sneak in a blistering joke about how the bride and groom “both like green” (as in cash) and, as Owen Wilson predicted…awkward silence. If you want to be loved-sit-down.” DON’T: And there’s another saying: “If you want be heard-stand-up. In the over 3,000-year history of public speaking, from the Greek orator Demosthenes to Abraham Lincoln to President David Palmer, no one has ever listened to a great speech and said, “ Man! I wish that puppy was longer!” There’s an old saying about the “3 Bs.” Be brief. It’s fine to have some quick notes on index cads, but never dictate from a notebook, hunched over, like you’re on CSPAN reading the by-laws of an agriculture bill. Practice to an actual person if possible, practice to the mirror if not. Whether you write out the entire speech or just have some talking points, rehearse, rehearse, and rehearse until you stop fumbling for your next line. Apparent happiness? 40%? This is what happens when you don’t prepare. Having already squandered my ace material, I was utterly blindsided and said something bizarre and off-the-cuff: “If their happiness in the future is, ah, even 40% of their apparent happiness today, then they’ll be in great shape.” Literally. In my awkward early days as a best man, I gave a toast at the rehearsal dinner…and then failed to realize that I also needed to give a speech at the reception. Stick to this mantra: flatter the bride, needle the groom, flatter the bride, needle the groom. Underscore how lucky the groom is to have met her, how much she’s rocked his world, how she can even throw a football with a tight spiral, that sorta thing.

She’s sorta cute, but Greg usually dates models, you know? Then, over time, I learned that even though Sarah’s legs are a little chubby and her forearms are kinda hairy…she has a beautiful heart. And that’s what true love is all about. Eliminate any chance of you drunkenly slurring: “You know…when Greg first told me about Sarah, I couldn’t quite believe that shit. In the list of Bride’s Worst Nightmares, a wasted best man with a microphone is just below getting stood up at the altar, and it’s just above stripper-sex at the bachelor party. If you want to rise above mediocrity? Then follow these Dos and Don’ts: DO: You can give a lousy speech and the guests will still clink their champagne flutes, applaud, and then return to their cakes and dancing. Yes, it’s great to be clever, funny, and touching, but this is not about you. As long as you, the best man, avoid saying anything controversial-no jokes about cheating, bulimia, or the bride’s breast implants-almost nothing you say will matter. (Note: if you’re looking for an actual speech template and structure, click here.)įrankly, you don’t want to be so brilliant that you outshine the groom, the bride’s father, or the bride. Will it make or break the wedding? It won’t make it, but it can sure as hell break it. The best man’s toast is like an offensive lineman.

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